AmorousHug can be a whirlwind, and the world of apps is awash with everything from DTF hookups to long-term aspirations. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and burnt out. Yet despite these obstacles, committed couples are meeting and marrying online all the time. It just takes a little extra work to make it happen.

Start with a clear intention (what you want out of your relationship) and a quality profile. Avoid sloppy grammar and bad photos, and be sure to write personalized messages rather than generic one-liners. Then, be consistent with your participation. If you don’t show up frequently or respond quickly, you won’t get anywhere.

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Timing your swipes is also a good idea. Use an app that allows you to see who’s viewed your profile, and then limit yourself to about 15 minutes at a time before you start feeling overloaded or pessimistic. This will help you to better evaluate your potential matches and avoid judging them based on superficial factors.

If you’re unsure about someone, don’t be afraid to ask them about their intentions and goals. You may find that they are a match, but if they’re not looking for commitment or kids and you are, there’s no point in continuing to meet them. And always be sure to plan a safe call with a friend or family member before any date that involves meeting in person. They’ll be able to contact you during the date if necessary and you can have them drive you home.